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FOSTERING PRIDE TO HELP OVERSOME SOCIAL ANXIETY

The perils of beating ourselves up “I can’t believe I said that! I’m such an idiot!” “I made the conversation so awkward and boring!” “I came across as so anxious and weird! How can I ever face these people again?!” “I made such a terrible impression! I’m humiliated!” These are just a few examples of […]

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SOCIAL ANXIETY: COPING WITH CRITICISM

When you have social anxiety, being criticized can feel like being under attack in a war zone! It is your worst fear coming true. This is what you dread – facing the criticism nukes. Individuals with social anxiety would like to avoid all situations where there is even a small likelihood of being criticized. However, […]

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HOW SOCIAL ANXIETY IMPACTS HIGHER EDUCATION AND CAREER CHOICES

Everyone has moments of fear over their performance on things like college exams and projects or they worry whether they’ll please their boss or colleagues. For those who suffer from social anxiety, however, concerns like these may not only impact their ability to learn, they may also lead them to make different education or career […]

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BRINGING SELF-COMPASSION TO SOCIAL ANXIETY

To see one in all and all in one is to break through the great barrier which narrows one’s perception of reality. -Thich Naht Hanh. The illusion of the self and learned beliefs If you have ever experienced social anxiety intensifying to the point of significant distress or interfering with your goals in life, you […]

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USING VIRTUAL REALITY THERAPY TO TREAT SOCIAL ANXIETY

People are inherently social. We band together in social groups at work or in school, we pair up in relationships and bond with friends over sports games. We even go out of our way to join online games or social media groups themed around a common interest. This bonding is deeply ingrained in our psyche […]

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OVERCOMING SOCIAL ANXIETY THROUGH SOCIAL MISHAP EXPOSURES

It is common for those struggling with social anxiety to want to avoid social situations that don’t feel good. While avoiding those situations may lessen your anxiety in the short-term, it is not going to make facing those scenarios any easier in the future. In fact, the avoidance can actually make the anxiety worse! Exposure […]

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THRIVING AS A COLLEGE STUDENT WITH SOCIAL ANXIETY

Opportunity or Apprehension? Starting college comes with bittersweet anticipation for most students. It’s considered a rite of passage into adulthood and with this milestone comes independence, exploration and personal development. Some see the social parts of college life as the driving force to enroll. Keg parties, fraternity or sorority life and meeting new people is, […]

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SOCIAL ANXIETY: IMPERFECT IS THE NEW PERFECT

The biggest fear of individuals with Social Anxiety Disorder (SAD) is that of being found to be deficient and judged for the deficiency. What does one do so that our deficiencies remain undetected and we are not judged for them? How do we remain safe? The best solution would be to avoid people and situations […]

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SEX, MEN, & SOCIAL ANXIETY: MALE SEXUAL PERFORMANCE ANXIETY

“Performance” anxiety, indeed! That’s precisely the problem: thinking of sex as a performance, as something we are doing that is being scrutinized and evaluated by an audience. This performance mindset leads many men to be self-conscious, self-critical, worried, tense and anxious while being sexual. This in turns often results in bringing about the very problem […]

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STUCK IN THE AFTERMATH OF SOCIAL ANXIETY AND RUMINATION

What is Post-event Rumination and How Does It Relate to Social Anxiety? “Why did I say that?”  “I was the most awkward person at the party.”  “I was so quiet that no one even noticed that I was there.”  Have thoughts like this plagued you following a social event?  When a person is stuck thinking […]