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SEX, MEN, & SOCIAL ANXIETY: MALE SEXUAL PERFORMANCE ANXIETY

“Performance” anxiety, indeed! That’s precisely the problem: thinking of sex as a performance, as something we are doing that is being scrutinized and evaluated by an audience. This performance mindset leads many men to be self-conscious, self-critical, worried, tense and anxious while being sexual. This in turns often results in bringing about the very problem […]

LOST IN THOUGHT (part 2): COGNITIVE RESTRUCTURING FOR SOCIAL ANXIETY

Thoughts and Feelings in Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT) for Social Anxiety Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) has repeatedly been shown to be the most effective treatment for social anxiety disorder for the large majority of people. A central principle in CBT is that what we feel—such as social anxiety—is created not directly by a situation we experience, but […]

SOCIAL PHOBIA & DATING

Statistics shows that about 3.7 percent of the U.S. population ages 18 to 54—approximately 5.3 million Individuals are diagnosed with a social phobia each year. Social phobia occurs in women twice as often as in men, although there is a higher volume of men that seek help for this disorder. Dating is a challenging process, […]

LOST IN THOUGHT (part 1): MINDFULNESS FOR SOCIAL ANXIETY

Upsetting Social Anxiety Thoughts –I don’t know what to say. What do I say next? –I might say something stupid / offensive. –S/he’ll think I’m boring / stupid / unattractive / socially inept, and will dislike me. –What I have to say isn’t good enough. No one will be interested. –They can tell I’m anxious […]

LESBIAN, GAY, BI, TRANS OR QUESTIONING: SOCIAL ANXIETY & COMING OUT

Negative Beliefs among Lesbian, Gay, Bi, Trans or Questioning Individuals with Social Anxiety –I’m fundamentally different, and don’t fit in. –I’m not worthwhile unless I’m accepted by those I admire. –I can’t be accepted by others unless I meet their expectations. –If someone got to know the real me, they wouldn’t accept me. These are among […]

SOCIAL ANXIETY DOES NOT EQUAL INTROVERSION

Many people mistake social anxiety with introversion. Introversion is a perfectly normal personality trait. More precisely, there is a continuum from extroversion to introversion that describes one dimension of personality. Those who are relatively extroverted have an innate disposition to interact with many different people, often in groups. Those who are relatively introverted are more […]